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Men can disagree about this of course, but most men aren’t banging 30 year old virgins. Almost everyone older than the mid 20′s these days is approaching double digits if not there already in terms of partners and I do not consider the wishes or standards of religious men to be applicable to the larger hookup culture.

Susan Walsh says: August 14, 2010 at 6:18 pm @PJL

My next love interest will faint when I make her a grilled cheese sandwich. My pals get the three course meal. Unfortunately, this is how jerks are made.

I see nothing jerky about this. Your friends love you unconditionally, and attraction is irrelevant. A woman who is interested in you will want to work to earn your affection. If you do all the work, she will perceive that you are insecure and need to perform to earn her affection.

PJL says: August 15, 2010 at 4:39 am @ Susan,

Yeah, you’re right that perception is reality. One strikes up friendships in various ways; and I typically just invite people over for food. It’s somewhat pragmatic: it’s cheaper and easier to cook my own food in bulk. But this often means that leftovers spoil before I can get to them. Ergo, food becomes my social medium of choice. I’ve sense learned that one must be less “generous” when trying to romance than when trying to make friends. I suppose what is perceived as generous when courting friends is perceived as needy when courting romance. Counter-intuitive but it makes sense. Heheh, unfortunately the dog metaphor used by some gaming sites is a very helpful one, because I am an amateur dog trainer: rewards, including affection, comes after good behavior.

Mike says: August 15, 2010 at 5:56 am @ POF

I’ve known girls with a whopping partner-count of five that are more slutty than women I know in the 20s, much less myself in the mid-70s.

OK. Let’s go with this. This should be interesting. You are saying that a woman with a count of five could be more “slutty” then someone with a count of 75. OK. Obviously, your perception of what constitutes “slutty” must have more to it then just count. So what specific quantitative metrics, indicators, behavior patterns beyond just count do you use to assess “sluttiness” or is this just some random fuzzy completely subjective judgement.